Divorce if you please

All right. Fine.

This blog has gotta happen.
It’s gotta happen before this weekend.
It’s gotta happen before tomorrow’s tattoo session wherein I’m transforming the “eternal” wedding band.

Sorry everything else: this takes precedence.

Thematic overtone: it’s not that things can’t last forever, but we must do our best to remain flexible and adaptable. We must be willing to accept and have the courage to evolve within our relationships when changes present themselves.

For those of you keeping score at home, I’m talking about my marriage: more accurately I’m talking about the dissolution of my marriage.

Hey, boys & girls, we made it nine years = a hell of a lot longer than the bets were waging!!!

It all ties into the whole:

Having made the pact with myself to stop letting fear dictate my decisions and to stop waiting until I’m “not poor anymore” before I feel “comfortable enough” to be an artist.

As many of you know, the implementation of this theory has been working out for me quite well.

And it ushered in even more change.

The “Adam + Jenna” relationship has shifted.

On Valentine’s Day Adam and I decided we were finally ready to part ways.

We’ve known for a solid couple of years now that we were far better writing partners and best friends than we were lovers and spouses.

And we knew that we were making ourselves nothing short of miserable by trying to force everything else around it.

We’ve been discussing separation for quite some time now, but never moved forward (fear, isolation, poverty….)

I came to the realization/revelation that we can absolutely go our separate ways. And it doesn’t have to be full of drama and pain. If we recognize that we’ll both likely be happier either alone or with others….than what’s the hold up?

I just decided that we could figure out a way to work out the details.

And we have been.

So, we decided to focus on what works for us when it comes to maintaining a relationship: the creative writing partnership. Granted, we’re both doing individual projects, but after 5+ years of writing together, we’ve definitely got our “bouncing board”/ editing thing down.

And major things are happening with our projects.

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So, yea, the saga of Sleep Deprivation Society continues….and is growing rapidly. And not only with the projects. I finally got the domain name and am in the process of compiling the layout & content for the site. Agent meetings are in the works. (Lots of amazing things are in the works.)

And then there’s everything else.

There’s been a magical renewal in Adam and I’s relationship – such a weight has been lifted. We love each other enough to say, “Let’s stop just sustaining and set one another free to live, love & explore (but hang onto the stuff that works really, really well).”

Our friends keep saying, “My God, you guys are having the best divorce.”

It’s true. We are.

And we’re hanging out with others a lot and fucking enjoying ourselves.

Damn, why didn’t we do this earlier?

Because we had to live thru all of the shit that we’ve been thru, I guess.

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It’s been a wild ride – and it’s only getting better by every – single – waking – moment.